Thursday, July 26, 2012

2 Cultures, 1 House

Growing up, I was exposed mostly to one culture. I've seen others, but never had to "live" by them. As a kid, you really don't pay much attention anyways, just that you have fun with the other kid(s). Then I met my husband, Sergio. He's Peruvian. I didn't really think much of the culture thing. I knew it'd be different, but had no idea how much it would change my life.

We lived with his family for awhile until we were able to get our own place. It was different. The food, hearing spanish 24/7 (actually helped me to pick up a little - I can understand better than I speak it), how they did things, etc. It was all new and weird to me. But I figured, hey, we'll be moved out soon and then things will go back to normal. Wrong. My house contains things from Peru, I still hear spanish a lot (especially spanish news), smell Peruvian cooking (some I can't stand to see or smell), and him wanting to do things he's used to in his culture. It's been hard adjusting. I still am. But I'm grateful for when he's at work, because then I actually get to forget all the Peruvian stuff, haha. But it is kinda cool learning new things about other places in the world.

When it comes to child raising, it's very... different. I want it one way, he wants it another way. It's something we've learned we have to compromise on - same with anything else; compromise, compromise, compromise! Sometimes, since we can both be a bit stubborn, it can be hard. But we work through it. 

I could go on, but I don't want him to read this and think I'm badmouthing him, haha. Nor, do I want to offend anyone. It's just me expressing my life in a mixed culture family, as many are today. 

Are you in a mixed culture relationship? How to you feel about the different culture lives?


  1. Yes! Although I guess it's not as dramatic since we are both Asian. He's from India and I'm from Laos, but even then the culture is totally 180. His family is much more conservative than mine. So I get how frustrating it can be at times. He can see the same thing differently and it really is all about compromise! But along the way, you do learn awesome things!

    Love & Whimsy

    1. Exactly! It can be very frustrating. Glad there's someone out there who understands. :) Like you said, you do learn awesome things!